https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-counts-as-sex-its-not-just-intercourse-a-clinical-sexologist-explains
What Counts As Sex? Masturbation, Oral Sex, Anal, And More | mindbodygreen
Messing around but no penetration? That's still sex. Sex includes a lot more than just the act of putting a penis into a vagina. A sexologist explains.
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